Huh? French Kiss? That is what I secretly remember thinking the first time I heard the word. I recall being in elementary school, on the playground, underneath one of those half-dome monkey bar things that all of the playgrounds used to have, when I first heard of a French Kiss. I had absolutely no idea what those kids were talking about. But they all seemed to know so there was no way I was going to ask and let it be known that I was clueless.
It was most likely a few years later before I used all of the many context clues I had gathered to really know what a French Kiss was. There was not really much on television I watched that would explain this, I would never have asked my parents, my brother was younger than I was so he naturally didn’t know anything (at least that is what I thought), so I just had to wait and piece it all together. At some point I do recall the stunning realization that some of these words I had been stumped by could be found in the dictionary. I suppose that was pretty helpful.
Have you considered how this process will work for your children?
Until recently I just expected my children’s experience with sex and the like to be similar to mine.
Today I read a post by a thirty-three year old, daughter of a Southern Baptist Preacher and recovering addict, entitled “Three Things You Don’t Know About Your Children and Sex.” Wow, huge eye opener!
This is what made the most impact on me: Miller states, “Google is the next Sex-Ed.”
Just like we use Google to search for anything else, children are using Google to search for these phrases, like “French Kiss.” Why not? Google won’t laugh, criticize or condemn. This is very logical.
Although the thought of the Pandora’s Box this innocent search might reveal is sickening to say the least.
My desire to maintain my children’s innocence and joy for as long as possible is a constant concern. Too often it seems our children are approached by evil. It is reassuring for me to remind myself evil can only be defined by what it is not – the good in the World. So in order for evil to exist there must also be the good. We just have to look for it.
This is another good reminder. Talk to your children. Talk to them often. And let them know they can ask you anything – tell them this. It is my hope that my children will be comfortable asking me, not Google when they really want to know something.