We have all heard it before, “in order to succeed one must first learn to fail.” As a parent this means we have to let our children fail before they can succeed. I know, it is so difficult to watch your child fail. And it all begins so very early.
As our babies learn to walk it is hard to sit back and watch when you know they are going to fall. But if we were to swoop them up every time they wobbled, how would they ever learn to walk?
My older kids seem to rarely take my advice, and on the occasion they do I can tell they are not always completely convinced I have any clue what I am talking about. I have learned to be ok with this. When they gain wisdom through their own mistakes they truly learn – they succeed. Through their own experience this newfound knowledge is concrete, definable and able to be reconstructed and amended – they own it.
Forbes Magazine recently published an article, “7 Crippling Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Growing Into Leaders.” Guess what number 1 on this list was – “We don’t let our children experience risk.”
So do your kids a favor, let them fail.